Our Modern Friendship

People don’t seem to look at each other any more. They don’t quite talk with the same voice. They don’t interact with the same vigor.

The perception of reality and priority has been so twisted by media, technology, and ignorance that people have become oblivious to the human connections they ignore. The idea of friendliness has certainly changed over generations, and it has quite possibly degenerated.

Human connections should be confirmed from the very first meeting. All around people see others that they know, but they will hardly ever approach these people. An antisocial mind-block occurs just before simple greetings like, “hello”. People might look straight at each other, each one entirely aware of who the other is, but neither will show signs of recognition. Its a concerning idea. The human connection is the main idea behind sociological interaction, and  people are  allowing it to be ignored. Even acquaintances should be friendly to each other, for only from that point are new friendships allowed to emerge. And even if friendship is in neither party’s interest, why should we suddenly ignore each other? It’s not thought of as offensive, but perhaps it should be. The people that surround us are our greatest resource.

People are talking about nothing. They shout out worthless thoughts on places like Facebook and Twitter, searching for a connection. People will respond, show an interest of course, but it’s not anything substantial. It’s not a real connection. It’s like small talk. Nothing true. It’s nothing of value. Just blurbs of nonsense.

Is this truly what friendship has become? Blurbs of nonsense? Just thoughts that open up nothing about the person at hand, but just what they had for lunch and what they’re doing this afternoon? Don’t get me wrong, it’s good to know what people are doing. It’s especially important to show an interest, but if we limit our communication to just this, our relationships will be empty. We need deeper friendships. People should value their connections with each other. In a search for meaning, this is surely the most meaningful thing yet to be found. In our relationships we learn about people, and this further defines ourselves. It’s important to understand people around us, and to be developing deeper connections all the time. It is these rich relationships that will develop into the valuable friendships that we need.

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Austin Lundgren


  1. Is this what you believe from observation or personal conviction?

  2. I do agree with this articule and you did a good job on it,I also agree because theres alot of people that you may know from either different classes or you’ve seen them before that you’ve never talked to them ,and you just look at them because you recognize them and you just ignore each other an never took the actual time to get to know them better and maybe if you had taken the time,you could haved become friends with them. 😀

  3. I couldn’t agree more. People are relying entirely too much on building relationships via facebook, twitter, texting, etc. It can only be assumed that more means of internet communication will be invented, therefor furthering the problem. Hopefully this issue will be realized soon because I can’t imagine that it will get better on its own.

  4. the writer really understands what a friendship needs to survive and progress as life moves forward! a great friendship helps and give you the correct influences and conviedence to be the best you can be.

  5. I agree with this article. You did a really good job writing it, and we should do something at Churchill to improve the way of communication around the school.

  6. This is depressing, people still have friends. I see mine and talk in the hallway all the time. It seems like you’re only talking out of personal experience. Try lightening up a little?

    God speed.

  7. It is very true that all of our relationships are formed on facebook or twitter. We have grown too comfortable with the fact that we don’t have to approach a person to meet them or start a conversation, we can just add them on facebook. This shelters us from the reality of the real world when we need to know how to start that conversation with your future boss or mother/father in law.

  8. I agree most conversations are worthless. We need to have meaningful conversations, and create worthwhile relationships.

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