According to Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness, RELATIONSHIP ABUSE is when a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner; The abuse can be emotional, physical, financial, and sexual. Threatening, intimidating, making them feel isolated from the world can also be abuse.
The cover of the book "Stop Domestic Abuse" by Dr Jeanne King.
Staying with the person that is hurting you will always escalate to more violence, more abuse, more hurt feelings. He or she can tell you certain things to make you stay like “I love you, ” or “It was a mistake,” or “It won’t happen again.” Also “I can change, I’ll get help. Don’t leave me. I need you.”
It’s just part of the act; they want to control you just to feel powerful. They want you just to depend on them and no one else. They’ll make you feel like they’re the only one that can understand you or that they’re the only ones that care. However, that person can take you away from your family, make you stop seeing them , break you down or even make you weak. Signs of abuse can be difficult to recognize, especially from within a relationship.
Friends, family members, and colleagues may often be the first to notice signs of being in a controlling and abusive relationship. Meanwhile, you think you’re somewhat “in love” and won’t notice.Family members who do care for you will. When you need someone to talk to or help you get out of this kind of relationship you should call The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) where they can help you by telling you the signs and how to get out of that type of relationship.
No one should abuse you or want control over you; no one has the right to make you feel like your worthless, that you don’t matter. Get out of that kind of relationship. It’s not worth it. If he or she did love you, they wouldn’t treat you that way. They would love you without hurting you or make you feel bad.
If you want to get out of this kind of relationship, talk to someone you trust: a teacher, friends, family. You don’t have to put up with any more, and don’t go back to him or her. Just forget about them. Get help and stay away: he or she isn’t someone that loves you…they just want power over you.
Signs of an Abusive Relationship:
The cycle of violence in an abusive relationship.
- Tries to control you by being very bossy or demanding.
- Tries to isolate you by demanding you cut off social contacts and friendships.
- Your family and friends have warned you about the person or told you that they are concerned for your safety or emotional well being.
- You have trouble ending the relationship, even though you know inside it’s the right thing to do..
- Pressures you sexually, demands sexual activities you are not comfortable with.
- Claims you are responsible for their emotional state.
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